No sorrow?

It is a habit of mine to read the questions before I do the actual reading part. The questions alone gave me a little shock. How could anybody not be suffering from grief of a loved one that has passed. Especially when that loved one is the person's very own mother. The one who raised and nurtured that child, and took so much time out to care for the child all the way from childhood, and most mothers are there for their children even when they are leading their adult lives. I basically figured tout hat this mother was not the greatest or ideal mother that people would love to have. I thought that maybe this mother might have done something horrible to upset her daughter, so much so, that she would hardly care once her mother has passed. Once I read the story, I still did not feel so good about the type of feelings that the daughter was having about her mother's death. I am sure that there are many things that parents do and say that may make it hard to love, accept, or be around them. But I think a great deal of these feelings that she is having has to do with her inability to let go of hurt and things that had taken place in the past.I am not trying to say that the mother was completely innocent in this situation that had happened. But I think that there is fault on both sides. Not only on the side of the mother, but I think that there is also fault to be found on the side of the daughter. I don't really think that much or any good for that matter, is done when a person is harboring feelings of hurt and, or hate. I think that I am having these feelings about her reactions because I feel that the death of a person, especially somebody who is suppose to so close to us like our mothers, should cause such a great deal of emotion. Not just any emotion of course, I don't really think death should cause somebody to feel relief or a sense of a burden lifted. Not all mothers act like angels, but I think in order to not feel such a great deal of guilt when they are gone, one should do all in their power to make things right before the person is gone. Because once that person is gone, it is too late to tell the person that you love them, or that you are sorry, and it eats at some people for so very long. I once saw this documentary about this lady who adopted all these kids with serious health problems, and some had mental problems as well. This one boy caused her a great deal of grief, but she still managed to treat him kindly and tell him she loved him. Then the boy died. I think a person asked if she felt relieved, because of the great deal of pain he caused the family, but she said no, and expressed how sad she was that he was gone. I think that no matter what, one should never let ill feelings or hate take precedence over one's attitude toward another. To relay bad feelings back only does more harm.